It’s that time of the year! Most kids around me and, of course, not just kids, but also adults like me, whose job is teaching from Pre-K to university are all going back to school!
Happy School Year to students, parents and teachers!
And… as I connect everything happening in the universe somehow to Damian Lewis, “Back to School” time desperately calls for a post that will take us back to Damian’s EARLY school days!
Well… Damian grew up on Abbey Road, not far from the famous Zebra Crossing, which I blogged about earlier here, in a traditional upper-middle class British family. He tells Mr. Porter: “If you split everyone up into ‘posh’ and ‘not posh’, I’d end up in the posh lot,” he says. “But in some ways I’ve rejected it by choosing to do what I do.”
In an interview with Esquire, Damian says that he was a pretty shy child until he turned 8. But this all changed when he turned 8 to the point that “his mum took him to the GP and gave the family doctor an ultimatum: ‘It’s either him or me. One of us has to go.'”
And it is around this time his parents send him to boarding school. In an interview with Guardian in 2002, Damian tells his story of leaving for boarding school: “My parents were incredibly inclusive. They discussed boarding school with us and said if we didn’t like it we could go to a day school. But I was a pretty manic kid aged seven. I kept getting into trouble. I actually wanted to get away.”
Haha. No wonder his childhood nickname was Damage!
Sounds FUN, huh, for eight year olds?
But the first term of boarding school was not easy even for our outgoing, noisy boy! Damian remembers his young self in first term of boarding school pretty vividly:
“I ran around like a headless chicken, full of nerves, for two weeks. And then I cried for a week. There was still caning when I was there. We were caned for the greatest sin there was, which was talking after lights out… Because it made everyone tired… And if the school was tired, it couldn’t operate well.”
And… caning happened to Damian, too!
“Regularly. Until my mother complained. It was the end of the 70s. Things changed massively through the 80s. That was the end of a more Dickensian way of schooling… My mum being my mum, she didn’t complain because she thought it was being cruel to me, but because it was clearly not working. Which was brilliant. Because I was being repeatedly caned. It’s shocking to Americans – of course they can’t believe it.”
Damian, you are absolutely right, Americans, of course can’t believe it. On the other hand, I BELIEVE it. Having grown up in Turkey, I know for a fact that caning was still a favorite pastime for some teachers in 1980s and I had my share, too — and guess for what? The greatest sin of all in a day school: Talking to friends during class time! 🙂 Haha I don’t remember how many times teachers told my mom: “Your daughter is very smart but she speaks A LOT!”
Anyhow… Back to young Damian as a well-behaved boy, in fact, a head boy — which changed over time!
“My duties included turning all the lights off,” he recalls. “I was a responsible young chap.” Later, he recalls less responsible things: “Midnight raids on the school pantry, sneaking into girls’ dormitories, having midnight feasts, tying sheets together and shinning out of the fourth floor window to pick up slippers we’d bunged down.” It was, he says, “all very Tom Brown’s School Days”.
Can you SPOT our boy in this pic? 🙂 He has not changed much, huh?
So, overall, it was a happy childhood at boarding school, Damian tells Hunger Magazine:
“A good experience of childhood sets you up for life. I went to boarding school, and if you have certain attributes you thrive in those places, and I think I had those attributes. So I succeeded at school, and it was a happy time for me.”
Ashdown House was also the place where Damian discovered theater: “Each summer we staged a Gilbert and Sullivan Operetta. It was all so English. I used to sing the solos. I had a sweet treble voice.” Damian’s first ever role was a policeman The Pirates of Penzance, a Gilbert and Sullivan. And, by age 12, he had already played in 12 Gilbert and Sullivan Operettas.
Damian told the sweetest story on Desert Island Discs about how a school incident might have finished his career… At age 11, he was in Gilbert and Sullivan’s Princess Ida and just forgot the whole third act 😀
“It’s like an actor’s nightmare that actors have before they’re getting ready for press night but it happened to me in real life. I stood on a stage in front of the entire school with Mrs Woodgates playing the piano from the side and singing at least one song for me and saying quite a lot of my dialogue as well.
I was stood there mouthing it on the stage like I might just fool them if I just keep moving my lips. The headmaster said it was the worst dress rehearsal in his history of being at the school.”
Awww… That’s one sweet 11 year old boy whom I applaud not giving up on acting right there after such a trauma! And he, in fact, went ahead to receive a school prize for his role as Bottom — a character who provides comic relief throughout the play — in A Midsummer Night’s Dream! Hear Damian talk about it on Times Talks London:
As long as Damian does not have regrets about his boarding school days, he still thinks it’s not for everyone… He shares his honest opinion with Polly Vernon who interviewed him for the Sunday Times Magazine:
“It wasn’t awful… But I know what happens to you as an eight-year-old when you’re sent to those places. I know what it does to you.” He pauses, because, he says, he’s trying to find a way to phrase the next bit without reusing an expression he deployed on Desert Island Discs, “when Kirsty asked me the same thing”. But he decides to go ahead and reuse it: “Because it’s my expression, and I like it. It’s a ‘sphincter-tightening exercise’, is what it is. It’s a moment as a young boy when you learn to deal, quickly, independently, and away from your home. It is a life-forming experience. And the homesickness and crying at bedtime … Others of my generation, who send their children away, would argue that that’s OK, that it’s not the end of the world, you get over it and they will have a brilliant time. That would have been my parents’ view. But on balance, I think I decided that wasn’t OK.”
OK I really really really have to jump in and applaud Damian for this very honest and open account of how it feels for an eight year old to be away from home learning to deal with life on his own. I was quite older than that when I left home, I was 18 when I left for college, and having grown up as a spoiled brat and an only child, even at 18, I was like a fish out of water for a month or so. Thus, I cannot imagine being an 8 year old at a boarding school. Having said that I agree with Damian leaving home relatively young, and 18 is probably a good age to do that, makes you learn how to survive and stand on your own feet and explore and learn how to deal with life and be an independent individual, which in my experience, has been priceless.
Back to the interview…
PV: “For your kids?”
PV: “You and Helen talked about sending them to boarding school?”
DL: “We still talk about it. My children are right at that age. We thought about it and discussed it enough to know that we wouldn’t do it. But there are times when I look at my children bouncing off the walls, and stuck in a slightly precious north London environment where everyone’s worrying about the blah blah blah, and I do think they could be running around, muddy knees, playing sport for an hour and a half, every day of the week. And they might just be doing that. Maybe. But …”
PV: But ultimately, no?
DL: “Ultimately, no.”
After he graduates from Ashdown House, Damian enters Eton, a boarding school that has produced 19 prime ministers and educated generations of the aristocracy which certainly deserves its own separate post! Coming soon!
Let’s finish with The Logical Song by Supertramp that Damian chose as one of his tracks on Desert Island Discs.
Well, the song goes…
“When I was young, it seemed that life was so wonderful,
A miracle, oh it was beautiful, magical.
And all the birds in the trees, well they’d be singing so happily,
Joyfully, playfully watching me.
But then they sent me away to teach me how to be sensible,
Logical, responsible, practical.
And they showed me a world where I could be so dependable,
Clinical, intellectual, cynical…”
Damian says: “This is now a standard pop song that is known the world over. But I think it’s a brilliant song. And, it’s really a song to anyone who went to boarding school from an early age.”
Indeed — ENJOY the song!