It’s Lady Trader’s turn to spill the tea, so here we go!
I was so excited when I knew we were all going to do the Proust Questionnaire after Damian did it. The questions were fun, but revealing; I was so curious as to how my fellow team members would answer, and how I would as well.
When I first filled out the Questionnaire it was several months ago. Reviewing my answers recently, I realized I had to change a few, as things in my life had changed, and I was in a different place. It just goes to show you how life can change in a short period of time. I am also curious as to what my answers would have been had I taken this “quiz” before my cancer fight. I know I’m a lot more introspective now, so these answers reflect Lady Trader 2.0!
What is your idea of perfect happiness? Sitting by the ocean, reading a book on a late summer day.
What is your greatest fear? Not being able to help the people I love.
Which historical figure do you most identify with? Queen Elizabeth I. She was a strong woman, in a field dominated by men. She also took a very unorthodox road to get to the top!
Which living person do you most admire? My oncologist, Dr. Rachel Kramer. She is more than just a doctor to me, she is a friend, and I would have never gotten through my treatments without her support.
What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? The voice in my head that tells me I can’t do things.
What is the trait you most deplore in others? Hypocrisy
What is your greatest extravagance? I tend to spend a lot of money on flavored teas and Funko POPs!
What is your favorite journey? The journey that so far has been my life! It’s had valleys and mountains, and there is still a long road ahead!
What do you consider the most overrated virtue? Morality. Everyone has different levels, and who am I to judge anyone?
On what occasion do you lie? Telling everyone I wasn’t scared of chemo, when in reality I was scared shitless!
What do you dislike most about your appearance? Not seeing the same person in the mirror that others see.
Which living person do you most despise? I don’t want to name names, but someone who has tried to drag me down in order to lift themselves up.
Which words or phrases do you most overuse? “What the Fuck?”
What is your greatest regret? That I haven’t traveled more; will be changing that soon!
What or who is the greatest love of your life? It took me a long time to figure this out, but the greatest love of my life is me. Perhaps a major health scare will do that!
When and where were you happiest? As a child, Christmases in Brooklyn with my family were the happiest times of my life.
Which talent would you most like to have? I know how to play the trumpet, but I would love to play the guitar. I’d love to rock on stage with Black Sabbath! Last I checked, they didn’t have a horn section!
What is your current state of mind? Determined
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? I’d like to be about 4 inches taller!
If you could change one thing about your family, what would it be? That they could all be healthy and happy.
What do you consider your greatest achievement? Being content with who I am, and loving that person.
If you were to die and come back as a person or thing, what do you think it would be? I would probably come back as a cat. Everyone says I have “cat appeal” since all the strays in my neighborhood know to come to me to be very well cared for!
If you could choose what to come back as, what would it be? I’d like to come back as an eagle, so I could soar above the land and see its beauty.
What is your most treasured possession? My memories of people who I love who are no longer with me.
What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery? Self pity
Where would you like to live? Surrounded by people I love, and who love me.
What is your favorite occupation? Trader. It’s what I do, and who I am, and I love it!
What is your most marked characteristic? Loyalty
What is the quality you most like in a man? Intelligence
What is the quality you most like in a woman? Self confidence
What do you most value in your friends? How they make me laugh and “get” me.
Who are your favorite writers? Shakespeare, Charles Krauthammer, Steven Moffat, Ron Chernow, David McCullough, Joseph Ellis, Winston Graham. (I just realized that this list is all men. I don’t even want to tackle what that means!!)
Who is your favorite hero of fiction? The Doctor (Doctor Who)
Who are your heroes in real life? My Grandmother – she didn’t have it easy, but loved life, loved to laugh, and loved her family.
What are your favorite names? Elizabeth, Demelza and Ophelia
What is it that you most dislike? Long questionnaires!
How would you like to die? Peacefully
What is your motto? “Trust, but verify.” – Ronald Reagan “If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love someone else?” – RuPaul
Lipton: What is your favorite curse word? Fuck
Lipton: What sound or noise do you hate? That “beep, beep, beep” sound when a truck is backing up. I know it’s trivial, but it drives me insane!
Lipton: What sound or noise do you love? Laughter
Lipton: If heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the pearly gates? “Scared you there a few times, didn’t I?” as my cats are sitting there by His feet!