Happy 12th Anniversary, Damian Lewis and Helen McCrory!

I have been married for quite some time (23 years in two days!) but my husband and I don’t care much about our marriage anniversary. We somehow feel it is just the day we “legally” became a couple and what we do instead is to celebrate the day we started dating 😀 And I obviously do not know if Damian and Helen are having a big celebration for their anniversary, but one thing I know is that even if they are not, an entire nation is celebrating with fireworks today on their behalf 😀


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Happy 12th Anniversary, Damian and Helen! We wish you two many, many, many more decades together!

Damian and Helen attend Serpentine Gallery Summer Party in London, June 2019

Two years ago, Helen talked about celebrating anniversaries with gifts appropriate for that anniversary: cotton for first, paper for second, leather for third and so on. She laughed as she told she had made a bikini from paper that would fit her for their paper anniversary and sent it to Damian. Quite SEXY! Silk for twelfth. So… any guesses? We have some traditional gift ideas here! but the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences has given our favorite couple a brilliant gift earlier this week: Both Damian and Helen have been invited to join the Academy as members. Congratulations!

We earlier shared with you the story of how our favorite couple met here and how Damian proposed to Helen here. They married on July 4th 2007 in front of friends and family at Kensington and Chelsea Register Office.

What about honeymoon? Helen’s words make it even lovelier than it is:

“I did have a honeymoon. It lasted an evening. It was very short, but very lovely. We got married in the Kensington and Chelsea registry office, then walked down the King’s Road and had lunch in a nice restaurant (La Famiglia) around the corner with 11 people. A very romantic day.”

It’s VERY romantic and the way they kept it simple is very telling: these two are absolutely my kind of people 🙂

Now, there is no question that 12 years of marriage is quite an accomplishment in show business. So does our favorite couple have a secret recipe for a successful marriage?

Well, you see their love and affection for each other not only in how they look and move together…

…but also in their ways to balance life…

Damian comments in an interview with Vogue:

“As much as we may look like power-hungry, mad people, we are very committed, first and foremost, to living our life.”

Michael Attenborough, who directed them in Five Golden Rings, the play in which the couple met and fell in love with each other both on stage and off stage, says:

“The key to the success of Damian and Helen’s partnership is laughter. And that, above all else, endures.”

Damian and Helen attend BGC Day and raise funds for the charities they patron in September 2018

Helen tells Woman and Home in a recent interview:

“Damian is my best friend. Why? Because he’s the most available person to me! No, it’s because I love him to bits and because I respect his opinion and because he’s funny.”

And Damian shares with The Evening Standard about the humor at home:

“My wife makes me laugh a lot. [Our humour] is very dry. Very cut and thrust. I’m not always sure it is a joke. Or who is being laughed at, in fact.”


Helen gives a very critical piece of hint about their relationship in a Telegraph interview:

“We’re never our own masters, Damian and I, so it’s about being patient and kind to each other. When the other person said they were going to be home at 7pm and you’ve made dinner, and they don’t actually get back till 3am… do you know what? It’s not their fault, don’t give them a hard time. Even if it upsets you. Because they’re not in control of that.”

Damian and Helen attend the BAFTA TV Awards Ceremony in London, 2019

Moreover, it seems talking is a good chunk of the secret recipe…

Evening Standard reports in an interview with Helen that the couple is a gregarious pair and even though they have two busy careers with two kids, they still enjoy socializing. Helen says:

“We just drink less and go home earlier…”

Their perfect night is going to theatre, the cinema and a meal, and Helen adds:

“And we talk. Damian and I talk an awful lot.”

Damian and Helen in New York in March 2019

As a couple, they also have huge respect for each other’s careers, which I would personally list as one of the most, if not the most, important components of a successful two-career marriage.

Helen tells Evening Standard about their respect for each other when work is concerned:

“I have a huge respect for Damian’s work that has nothing to do with me or our relationship. Meeting each other at work means it’s always been easy to maintain independence… we’re very respectful of each other in that way. I think that’s what’s allowed us to keep working.

It’s the thing of every marriage, isn’t it? It’s the balance between wanting to be with someone but wanting them to fulfill themselves the best way they can and wanting to support them in that.”

Damian and Helen arrive at the Press Night for National Ballet’s “Cinderella” at Royal Albert Hall, London, June 2019

Damian reveals in an interview with Telegraph that, as they were planning in 2016 to move to New York for six months as a family, Helen received a job offer to lead the new ITV show Fearless. It was him who insisted Helen take the job — this is what every man should do but because they most often do not, I give Damian standing ovation for what he did — and took the kids with him to New York. And I love it that he is honest about the experience 😀

“I’m not going to pretend that I swanned through it – I felt pretty frazzled by the end of it. I think Helen adjusted… alarmingly well, shall we say, to four months without the kids or me. Never seen her happier, calmer.”

It goes without saying it is a pleasure to witness our favorite couple keep supporting each other’s careers as well having fun together. Here is Damian and Helen enjoying the good life together at a fashion show, a summer party, and oh yeah, at a Fleetwood Mac concert, too! 😀

And then they go home and become mom and dad. Here is my favorite picture of Damian and Helen from BAFTA evening and it is not the kind of picture you would expect 😀 😀 😀

It is brilliant of Helen’s stylist for taking this picture. Yes, these two are real stars in public but they are first mom and dad feeding the kids before a date night at the BAFTA Awards! And, hey, whose feet are they in the background? Love it!

Damian never shies away from taking his support for Helen to the next level as he talks to Kirsty Young on Desert Island Discs:

“I fully expect to be the butler to her Dame one day.”

Damian and Helen at the Evening Standard Theatre Awards, 2015, source: Getty Images

Laugh together.

Be kind.

Be patient.

Respect and support each other.


It is certainly an excellent recipe, and not a very secret one, is it?

Let’s close with a poem Damian read at Cheltenham Literature Festival that brought tears to my eyes then and brings tears to my eyes every time I read it. Not that it is the most romantic poem… it does not talk about love in every line, but it, in fact, talks about love, the endurance of it in every line, especially for a hopeless romantic like me 🙂 Cheers to Damian and Helen and to all couples out there that are in love!

Scaffolding by Seamus Heaney

Masons, when they start upon a building,
Are careful to test out the scaffolding;

Make sure that planks won’t slip at busy points,
Secure all ladders, tighten bolted joints.

And yet all this comes down when the job’s done
Showing off walls of sure and solid stone.

So if, my dear, there sometimes seem to be
Old bridges breaking between you and me

Never fear. We may let the scaffolds fall
Confident that we have built our wall.

Damian and Helen walking family dog Petra, June 2018

Author: Damianista

Academic, Traveler, Blogger, Runner, Theatre Lover, Wine Snob, Part-time New Yorker, and Walking Damian Lewis Encyclopedia :D Procrastinated about a fan's diary on Damian Lewis for a while and the rest is history!

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